My sister Michelle and I put out memorial flowers on our dad's headstone at Miller Cemetery just outside of our hometown in rural Indiana. The town florist asked us "What theme are you striving for in your memorial flower decoration?" We weren't thinking about "themes", but saw some nice sunflowers with cattails . . . and decided to go with a "theme" of flowers we'd see around the family's golf course.
It was a beautiful morning and I was glad to be there with my sister, but we felt the closeness of dad's passing as we contemplated the grassless patch over the burial site.